13 Feb 2011

looking forward a better life...

How To Motivate Yourself – Self Motivation

Staying motivated is a struggle — our drive is constantly assaulted by negative thoughts and anxiety about the future. Everyone faces doubt and depression. What separates the highly successful is the ability to keep moving forward.

There is no simple solution for a lack of motivation. Even after beating it, the problem reappears at the first sign of failure. The key is understanding your thoughts and how they drive your emotions. By learning how to nurture motivating thoughts, neutralize negative ones, and focus on the task at hand, you can pull yourself out of a slump before it gains momentum.

Reasons We Lose Motivation

There are 3 primary reasons we lose motivation.

  1. Lack of confidence – If you don’t believe you can succeed, what’s the point in trying?
  2. Lack of focus – If you don’t know what you want, do you really want anything?
  3. Lack of direction – If you don’t know what to do, how can you be motivated to do it?

How to Boost Confidence

The first motivation killer is a lack of confidence. When this happens to me, it’s usually because I’m focusing entirely on what I want and neglecting what I already have. When you only think about what you want, your mind creates explanations for why you aren’t getting it. This creates negative thoughts. Past failures, bad breaks, and personal weaknesses dominate your mind. You become jealous of your competitors and start making excuses for why you can’t succeed. In this state, you tend to make a bad impression, assume the worst about others, and lose self confidence.

The way to get out of this thought pattern is to focus on gratitude. Set aside time to focus on everything positive in your life. Make a mental list of your strengths, past successes, and current advantages. We tend to take our strengths for granted and dwell on our failures. By making an effort to feel grateful, you’ll realize how competent and successful you already are. This will rejuvenate your confidence and get you motivated to build on your current success.

It might sound strange that repeating things you already know can improve your mindset, but it’s amazingly effective. The mind distorts reality to confirm what it wants to believe. The more negatively you think, the more examples your mind will discover to confirm that belief. When you truly believe that you deserve success, your mind will generate ways to achieve it. The best way to bring success to yourself is to genuinely desire to create value for the rest of the world.

Developing Tangible Focus

The second motivation killer is a lack of focus. How often do you focus on what you don’t want, rather than on a concrete goal? We normally think in terms of fear. I’m afraid of being poor. I’m afraid no one will respect me. I’m afraid of being alone. The problem with this type of thinking is that fear alone isn’t actionable. Instead of doing something about our fear, it feeds on itself and drains our motivation.

If you’re caught up in fear based thinking, the first step is focusing that energy on a well defined goal. By defining a goal, you automatically define a set of actions. If you have a fear of poverty, create a plan to increase your income. It could be going back to school, obtaining a higher paying job, or developing a profitable website. The key is moving from an intangible desire to concrete, measurable steps.

By focusing your mind on a positive goal instead of an ambiguous fear, you put your brain to work. It instantly begins devising a plan for success. Instead of worrying about the future you start to do something about it. This is the first step in motivating yourself to take action. When know what you want, you become motivated to take action.

Developing Direction

The final piece in the motivational puzzle is direction. If focus means having an ultimate goal, direction is having a day-to-day strategy to achieve it. A lack of direction kills motivation because without an obvious next action we succumb to procrastination. An example of this is a person who wants to have a popular blog, but who spends more time reading posts about blogging than actually writing articles.

The key to finding direction is identifying the activities that lead to success. For every goal, there are activities that pay off and those that don’t. Make a list of all your activities and arrange them based on results. Then make a make an action plan that focuses on the activities that lead to big returns. To continue the example from above, a blogger’s list would look something like this:

  1. Write content
  2. Research relevant topics
  3. Network with other bloggers
  4. Optimize design and ad placements
  5. Answer comments and email
  6. Read other blogs

Keeping track of your most important tasks will direct your energy towards success. Without a constant reminder, it’s easy to waste entire days on filler activities like reading RSS feeds, email, and random web surfing.

When my motivation starts to wane, I regain direction by creating a plan that contains two positive actions. The first one should be a small task you’ve been meaning to do, while the second should be a long-term goal. I immediately do the smaller task. This creates positive momentum. After that I take the first step towards achieving the long-term goal. Doing this periodically is great for getting out of a slump, creating positive reinforcement, and getting long-term plans moving.

It’s inevitable that you’ll encounter periods of low energy, bad luck, and even the occasional failure. If you don’t discipline your mind, these minor speed bumps can turn into mental monsters. By being on guard against the top 3 motivation killers you can preserve your motivation and propel yourself to success.



source: http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/how-to-motivate-yourself/

9 Feb 2011

15 Pintu Syaitan & 15 Pintu Menghalang Syaitan Dalam Diri

peringatan utk diri sendiri

Posted: 02 Feb 2011 07:39 PM PST

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.....

15 Pintu Syaitan Yang Ada Dalam Diri Kita.

  1. Pintu Marah.
  2. Cinta Dunia.
  3. Enggan menghadiri majlis ilmu.
  4. Panjang angan-angan.
  5. Rakus.
  6. Bakhil.
  7. Suka pujian.
  8. Riak.
  9. Ujub (mengagumi diri sendiri).
  10. Takut & Gelisah.
  11. Buruk Sangka.
  12. Memandang Rendah orang lain.
  13. Suka pada dosa.
  14. Merasa aman dr pembalasan Allah.
  15. Putus Asa dari rahmat Allah.

15 Senjata Menghalang Syaitan

  1. Membaca Bismillah (menjadi kunci pada perbuatan baik).
  2. Banyakkan berzikir.
  3. Banyakkan Beristigfar.
  4. Baca “la i’ la ha illa anta subha naka inni kuntu minaz zoli min”.
  5. Jangan tidur berseorangan.
  6. Baca doa pagi dan petang.
  7. Bersugi.
  8. Melaksanakan solat jemaah.
  9. Berwudhuk sebelum tidur.
  10. Menutup aurat.
  11. Membaca doa masuk tandas.
  12. Banyak berselawat pada hati.
  13. Bertaubat, beristighfar.
  14. Banyakkan baca Al-Quran.
  15. Membaca surah Yassin setiap pagi.

Wallahualam.....

masih banyak teman-temanku di sini menemaniku...

Semalam cuti seharian p genting. lama dah tak p. best jugak dpt kuar ngan geng2 tmpt kije. ..wlpn tak sume dpt p tp puas hati la. penat tp seronok. walaupun pd mulanya mcm tak jadi dan mcm nk ajak p berperang...hahaha

gaduh2 dlm email then kemudian sume setuju nak p genting.

lepas ni kemana plak ye...??? emmm

4 Feb 2011

kontrak.hidup

bila bgn je dari tdo yg lena...alamak! terlewat nk p keje...alamak! hujan, abes kain aku jemur...alamak! itu alamak ini...tp satu yg kita jarang fikir...bila tdo tp tak bgn2...

so far mmg still bgn la kan. tp sekiranya TAK!???...mkin dh berada di alam lain. tp mungkin Tuhan masih nak aku fikir tentang hal itu. byk perkara yg aku dh lalai. ttp aku masih cuba utk perbaiki diri.

aku kije ade kontrak. tp bila performance ok sume jadi tetap. tp Tuhan bagi aku kontrak hidup. FREE OF CHARGE...xde access fee xde commitment fee dan sume2 fee pun xde. segala mcm yg ade kt badan aku, apa yg aku lihat rasa sumenya free. Yg Tuhan nak hanya satu. jadi khalifah di muka bumi ni dan jalankan syariat yg sepatutnya.

mkin kita sume sdr akan hal itu tp kudrat utk teruskan apa yg telah diwariskan kepada Nabi2 aka Messenger yg beratus ribu sebelum ni tiada. tp Tuhan tak membebankan kita utk igt sumenya. hanya 25 org saje. syukur juga kita jadi umat Nabi akhir zaman dan terakhir iaitu Junjungan Besar kita Nabi Muhammad S.A.W...sehingga ke akhir hayat baginda pun masih lagi igt akan umatnya...Ummati! Ummati! Ummati! (umatku)...tp kita jarang sekali nk berselawat ke ats baginda bila saje namanya disebut.

sakit nk mati tu bgai ditusuk 300 pedang. tp aku tercucuk jarum pun terasa bisa dan ngilunya. mcm mana ye. mkin senang lalai sbb hiburan. tp takkan nk jadi mcm ummat nabi2 yg seblm kita. dihancurkan ALLAH atas kelalaian...huhu


smpai bila nk jd cmni agaknya...kena perbetulkan diri sendiri sblm betulkan org lain. tp dlm masa sama berkongsi informasi...

yg pasti kejayaan itu bknlah dgn byknya harta, wang, tp hati yg bersih yg sentiasa TAQWA kpd-NYA...sbb mati nanti hanya kafan shj menyelimuti diri.

sampai.kapan

skg dh masuk bln ke-2 thn ni. maknanya skg aku dh berada dlm bulan February. Bulan kelahiran aku dan juga kembar aku.

dah berbelas kad jemputan kawin aku tima tapi tak semua aku dpt p. maklum la kalu kije shift ni. tak tentu masa. kadang2 hari pun dah lupa. hahaha.

agaknya masa utk memulakan biz sendiri sudah sampai. klu kije siang malam tp utk biz sendiri rasanya lagi berbaloi. plan aje memanjang. bila nk mula tak tau.he3

apa pun planning tu penting juga. mungkin ini la masanya.

tapi sejak dua menjak ni asyik tima kad jemputan kawin aje. empunya diri tak tahu lagi bila. haha..

benci dgn soalan cepu mas itu...alasan spt biasa belum ade jodoh..haha

wlpn sbnrnya tengah menunggu orang dari seberang laut pulang dulu. baru decide...emm...penantian itu satu penyiksaan...only for those yg bkn penyabar...haha
agaknya aku ni penyabar juga orangnnya...:P